Feminine & Masculine Desire
Hello Lovely,
Are you wondering what turns a feminine on? Or are you a feminine who has “lost” her sexual desire?
Yes, today I am going there today.
I have wanted to talk about women and sex for a long time.
I am only going to cover one TINY aspect of it.
One huge issue that is holding women back from unleashing this inner desire is shame. And I am NOT talking about body shame, today.
I am talking about emotional shaming.
“There is no reason to feel this way”
“So many people have it worse than you”
“Just let it go”
“You’re crazy”
“You’re overreacting”
“You always do this”
“It could be worse”
“What’s the problem now?”
“You’re so sensitive”
“When are you going to get over this?”
There are so many things that can be said that are emotionally shaming. We women have spent lifetimes saying these things (and worse) to ourselves all the time, and definitely do not need any more of this happening internally or externally.
Shaming the feminine for being emotional only makes the threatening waves of emotion that she already feels internally turn into a tsunami.
Not shaming the feminine and her emotions requires really powerful masculine energy. Small, immature masculine energy wants to control and minimize emotions because emotions are chaotic, unpredictable, wild, and terrifying.
(Women, notice that I am speaking to YOUR inner masculine energy. How do YOU handle yourself internally when you are having an emotional shit storm? This is your invitation to take responsibility for YOUR own emotional health.)
Mature masculine energy holds space for the turbulence. It is SUPPORT. It holds still, is grounded, safe and clear.
This means no judgement, no trying to fix, no criticism, no rushing the process, and definitely no attempts to reason with her.
The feminine just needs you to hold the space with loving support.
What does this look like?
Comfort and reassurance.
“I love you. I am here for you. Everything is going to be ok”
Listen with an open heart.
Listen and only offer your opinion/advice if she asks for it.
Let her get it out! (As long as it takes)
Believe in her ability to come out on the other side, without your interference. (Your interference only escalates the situation).
The shit storm will eventually clear, and the more rock solid the masculine energy is, the faster the storms will clear.
For the feminine energy, this creates a feeling of connection and intimacy for her because she feels seen and accepted. She is free to be ALL of her and to stop hiding/rejecting parts of herself.
Once she feels free to be ALL of her, desire is unleashed.
And there it is—emotional intimacy turning into physical intimacy.
To my feminines, I am here to guide and support you 1:1 on how to use your own masculine energy to feel safe in your emotions and find your path to personal empowerment. As always, it is about the feminine and the masculine in collaboration to create union.
Reach out when you are ready.
Suze